People, Friends and Family

This little segment is coming from inside me.  Speaking with some friends over the weekend I decided to write this little blog, hoping that maybe it will help someone who is going through a rough time. I’ve learned a lot this year…I’ve learned that things don’t always turn out the way you planned, or the way you think they should.  I’ve learned that there are things that go wrong that don’t always get fixed or get put back together the way they were before.  I’ve learned that some broken things stay broken and I’ve learned that you can get  through bad times and keep looking for better ones, as long as you have people who love you unconditionally.

I have been hurt many times from family, friends and from people that I really don’t know that well.  I’m at an age now where I feel the day to day bullshit has to stop. I try not to judge because you never know what someone else is going through.  I have been very busy renovating my home and found out first hand the true identity of my so called family/friends. It truly hurts me to the core.

When you are up and doing fantastic in your everyday life, everyone wants to be around you, I totally get it.  But when you are in need, (if it’s a death, illness, moving, or renovations) it would be nice for your family or friends to come forward and ask questions if there is an issue that I’m not aware of. Especially if they are not feeling the LOVE.  Sometimes people get busy in their day to day lives and simply forget to call, send you a message or simply drop in.  You need to give people the benefit of the doubt. If that doubt is broken then that’s a whole other issue.

Don’t let people walk all over you.  Sometimes when you’re too nice of a person and you always give and give, you might not know if you are being taken advantaged of, or if you’re being used.  A kind person with a soft heart is always there for people and seldom speak out for themselves. Learn how to say “NO”.  Your true friendships will be revealed. When you give because you can’t say no, it will deplete you.  When you give from your heart, it will replenish you.  Just be the kind person that you are, but stand up for yourself, and never EVER EVER let anybody walk all over YOU.  Just live life, smile, and do what is right for YOU. Guilt Free.

Don’t worry about what people think of you or about the way they try to make you feel.  If people want to see you as a good person, the will. If they want to see you as a bad person, absolutely nothing you do will stop them.  Ironically, the more you try to show them your good intentions, the more reason you give them to knock you down if they are committed to misunderstanding you. Keep your head up high and be confident in what you do.  Be confident in your intentions and keep your eyes ahead instead of wasting your time on those who want to drag you back down. You can’t change peoples views, you have to believe that true change for yourself, which comes from within you, not from anyone else. You don’t need anyone’s affection or approval in order to be good enough. Just be YOU.

Don’t make assumption.  Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama.  With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Today’s Reminders:

  1.  Be Kind
  2. Be Grateful
  3. Listen to your intution
  4. Be productive and calm
  5. Let go of what you can’t control

That’s my thought of the day.

Smile, be happy and Love your Life.  Focus on ONLY the good.

Grateful and Blessed

Lou xo

 

 

 

“Life Changes”

“Life changes. You get it all lined up just the way you like it and then something beyond your control comes along and bumps you off your center. Nothing stays the same. You grow up, make friends, lose friends, lose track of people, meet new ones and sometimes ask yourself why. But all I can tell you is that every single experience you go through changed you in some way. Every new person that comes into your life changes you. Every moral dilemma or emotional experience you come up against changes you. It’s your job to decide how.”